In your world, even very big problems are born of the fact that people attach all their energy to their own problems and reinforce them, when they do not take responsibility of themselves as individuals then but take the role of a victim. Man likes to remove the responsibility of his life to the spirit world, God, Christ, angels, fairies, gnomes, another person, whomever, and he is angry when nothing goes the way he wants anyway, and not even God fulfils his wishes! If man removes his responsibility outside of himself, he most certainly cannot affect his life, for then nothing is his responsibility. He can be peevish when nothing works but he does not have to ask himself ‘why’? As a victim, man can feel self-pity and bitterness freely, for the responsibility is then always somewhere outside of him. He is convinced that he cannot do anything about his life, so he has given himself a permission to be in his own state. A victim always has the right to defend himself but he never defends himself directly, for a victim sees that he has been allied against and has been attacked. A victim thinks that an attack is always insidious and comes from behind, when the victim gives himself, too, a permission to act in the same insidious way. A victim does not rise against things, for he does not see them as they are, but always manipulates behind the back and contents himself with his part, for he will never find out the truth. Many victims remain very lonely and bitter in their position of a victim because other people disappear from around them gradually. They do not understand the state of the victim because the reality is totally different, and they see this reality, when the interaction is distorted, and the bonds break little by little. The victim remains in his own bitterness and loneliness believing that he really has been treated wrong. Then he keeps on reinforcing his problem which is inside him. Everything depends on man himself all the time.
When mind is in chaos, emotions run wild and the body aches, man himself chooses on which he focuses his mind, and that which he focuses his mind on gets stronger. Very often people let states, things, mind, emotions or the body direct them, when a lot of unnecessary problems are born, for if one focuses one’s mind on the emotions running wild, the emotions lead and generate thoughts which are not real. When an emotion gets stronger, each thought it generates is less and less real, and when the mind is in chaos, it produces emotions which, for their part, affect the body. If man lets this go on, the state directs him, and ultimately the state has nothing to do with reality, when both problems and misunderstandings arise. Things cannot progress in this way although all the possibilities for it would exist.
In true love for oneself, there are different phases, and the phases that awake and rise are most essential and important. In every person, those phases rise that have remained unexperienced, and the state can progress in this way. In the person who has been a victim, “I” rises very strongly: ‘I need and I have a right’, when he starts defending his rights, and that alone tells about his love for himself. Gradually, he will notice that that love also includes taking other people into consideration, when his attitudes and actions change completely. It is no longer about a state of a victim which is self-centered, submissive and based on fear but a responsible confrontation of things as they are. It is honesty with love, for in it live realities and the ability to estimate what is suitable for me and what is not. Then the word ‘NO’ lives in it as well as the word ‘YES’. Man himself creates and directs his life with his own thoughts, and with his own relation to himself he also creates the way how the environment relates to him. Acceptance is liberation, for acknowledging emotions and accepting the state liberates, when the state can change. Only by realizing, acknowledging and accepting one’s state, one can take responsibility. The state is then free, and man can change it every moment when he wants.
About Hanni: She is from Finland and has a Master of Arts degree in Education. She spent seven years in a spiritual growth group led by a spirit called Uranus who was channeled by a trance medium. From her experiences she has written a book “Happiness Is Life Itself” (BookLocker.com, Inc. 2018). Her book was recently selected as a Winner in the 3rd Annual Body, Mind and Spirit Book Awards (CA, USA)
Hanni's blog: http://www.spirituranustalks.blogspot.com