Has life been a bit more challenging for you recently? When the world seems hard, chaotic, and even dangerous, and I feel it must clearly be falling apart around me, I turn to nature to remind me of big truths. For example, I love how nature shows us that some things fall apart EVERY YEAR …and then usually grow back again, sometimes bigger or stronger (or maybe more fruitful) than the year before.
Another example: the moon grows for half a month and shrinks for half a month. Every single month it looks like it’s becoming something whole and complete; then, the very next day after it shows us its full and powerful beauty, it immediately starts shrinking! If you only lived for two weeks, you would have a very different understanding of the moon. Your limited perspective would only see part of the truth of the moon’s monthly transformation. Would you be able to trust that it will become whole if all you’ve ever known is it shrinking?
I took nature’s truth nudge and created two cards/pictures with questions that bring me a feeling of relief and hope in troubling times. The questions are as follows: 1. What if everything is falling into place perfectly, even if it looks like it’s falling apart? and 2. What if everything is working out in surprising and beautiful ways?
To bring nature’s teaching into your personal awareness, please read the question on each picture out loud and see how each one makes you feel. What do you feel in your body when you ask each one? Where in your body do you feel it?
Take a moment to write down any thoughts you get when you read the questions out loud (and perhaps meditate on each one). To help you go deeper, you can use these writing prompts…
When I say the words: “What if everything is falling into place perfectly, even if it looks like it’s falling apart?”,
I Feel (sensations in my body):
When I say the words: “What if everything is working out in surprising and beautiful ways?”,
I Feel (sensations in my body):
To go even deeper, consider which one of these What If Pictures feels easier to believe? Which do you prefer? Which one gives you more hope?
Can you think of a time when something in your life looked like it was falling apart, only later to discover it helped create something good for you (sometimes better than you could have imagined it)?
Can you get to a point of assuming that things are going to work out in surprising and beautiful ways? Can you believe this is possible as you keep being who you are and taking steps that you intend to create a positive outcome?
A Big Step Toward Transformation
If you can’t believe it’s possible that things are falling into place even if they look chaotic and perhaps scary, there’s a process that might help you start to grow that trust in Life working on our behalf and the behalf of those around you. It’s actually a combination of two key teachings: A Course in Miracles and Ho’oponopono. In Chapter 6 of Dr. Seema Khaneja’s book, Physician, Heal Thyself, she introduces the Ho’oponopono prayer and offers some thoughts on how to see the four main phrases through the lens of A Course In Miracles.
The process is to think of the situation that is causing you emotional suffering. Acknowledge the pain/fear/anger/frustration. Then begin to repeat the four phrases below, including the details in the sentences that follow the key phrase (but not the information in the brackets - that’s just to give you a deeper understanding of the phrase). Here are the phrases and their details. Simply read it out loud while thinking of your situation. If you want to name the situation and/or people that seem to be causing your peace to be disturbed, that is okay, too, but not necessary.
I’m sorry: I am sorry that I do not see our true Self, the place of love and light, of purity and innocence. I accept responsibility for the error that lies in my perception.
Please forgive me: I seek forgiveness for the mistakes in my perception whenever I see lack, guilt, powerlessness, pain, fear, or unworthiness in myself or others.
[Further explanation: We can apply this prayer to ourselves as well, whenever we are holding ourselves in a space of self-blame, judgment, or guilt. Whenever we say “Please forgive me,” we are essentially asking for forgiveness of ourselves (or a washing or clearing away) of all our interpretations, reactions, and self-judgments. Forgiveness is spiritual alchemy that transforms our mind. It offers us a way to neutralize the energies of our judgments and re-set our minds to a state of being open, empty, and a clear, blank slate. Into this empty space, the love and light that was there all along, but merely covered with layers of fear and judgment, can shine through.]
Thank you: Thank you for the opportunity to become aware of the errors in my perception. Thank you for being the catalyst for my reaching more deeply into my mind beneath the surface of fear and lack to the place of healing and wholeness.
I love you: Only love is real and all else is false. Inner light, please shine brightly inside me and clear away all darkness and ignorance inside my mind so I may see everyone and everything through the eyes of love and light.
[Summary: We take responsibility for all our interpretations, reactions, and judgments about whatever we perceive and experience (in ourselves or others around us). We express that we are sorry and ask for forgiveness (of ourselves or another, or both). We express our gratitude for this opportunity for our healing and for the healing of the whole. Then we simply say, I LOVE YOU.]
Reach Out And Touch Someone: Most transformation processes are better when shared with a safe and loving connection - a friend, family member, mentor or coach. To really bring any shifts you receive from the journaling or the prayer process, I highly recommend that you reach out to someone and invite them to discuss the pictures and questions and also the prayer if you felt it was helpful. Share your story of things seeming like they are falling apart and listen deeply to theirs.
If you’d like support in your forgiveness journey, you can sign up here for Jennifer and Seema’s Forgiveness Experiment and you will be notified of upcoming gatherings: https://www.whatifwellness.org/Forgiveness2022
Reach out to Jennifer with any questions or comments or to share your thoughts on these practices. You can contact her at www.whatifwellness.org or via text at 315.719.9053. Seema Khaneja is also local to Rochester and can be reached at her website: www.coachingforinnerpeace.com
P.S. If you would like some additional tips on how to find peace in challenging times, you can visit Jennifer’s YouTube channel and check out the six videos of her Electing Peace series from the six days prior to the 2020 election. Here’s the link for Day 1 of the series:
https://youtu.be/dTBlMNEk8NY There are other videos on that page that might also support your path to inner peace. Much love!
About Jennifer Sutton: Jennifer Sutton facilitates the transformation of individuals and groups using tapping, curiosity, brain training, and laughter to help release limiting negative self-talk patterns as well as physical/emotional pain to create more space for personal peace, safety, and self-confidence. Jennifer offers individual and group coaching as well as training opportunities in person and/or virtually. Sought out for her deep expertise in the wellbeing space, Jennifer is known for her warm, empathic, and fun facilitation and presence. Jennifer has created dynamic, energizing experiences for organizations such as Cornell Cooperative Extension, Trumansburg Public Schools, and Shimmering Light Farm and is always on the look-out for new people and places with whom to partner for powerful impact.
Jennifer's website: http://whatifwellness.net/blog/