"The Happy Empath"

By Connie Wake & Susan Fiandach

Facebook allows for people to be connected to people and information. The information shared, mostly opinion, can create good, bad and ugly waves of attitude and behavior. I’ve noticed several postings, blogs and videos on empathy, describing it as a curse to sensitive people who feel other’s emotions, negativity, thoughts, etc.  


There are many points of view, opinions, research on Google. In regards to empathy, from different perspectives, empathy can be viewed as a tool, a reaction, as well as a lifestyle.  


For example:  Psychotherapists use empathy as a tool in their work; empathy is also a response to others’ energies; and then there was the following article: How empathy can be a happy lifestyle…


Empathism: Happiness through the Other

Joao Carlos Holland de Barcellos, April, 2007 

translated by Debora Policastro 


The Empathism is a doctrine that promotes happiness mainly through EMPATHY.


Empathy looked up is- Páthos, state of soul


Noun. the ability to share someone else's feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in their situation


Empathy is a feeling that makes us feel what the others feel: if he/she suffers, I suffer. If he/she is happy, I am happy too.


The “others” are all the other beings that are related to us.


Therefore, empathism wants us to be happy not through selfishness or simple sensorial pleasures, but through our fellow creature’s happiness.


It is a way of promoting the altruism and goodness through the sensation this goodness causes in another person.


We all have basically the same mental apparatus which forms consciousness, thus, it is not very different if others feel pleasure or us. Pleasure is contributing to happiness and we must nourish it in everyone that can feel it.


This breaks the current conventional paradigm that empathy is a curse, that an empath is left to a life of uncontrollable psychic effects from others, and that being empathic is a special gift versus a mind-body sense.

 

This mind-body sense, like all senses, receives information, interprets it, and based on that interpretation, facilitates a physical response.  With regards to the empathic mind-body sense, the incoming information received is “the energy of” and is interpreted through the frames of reference and perspective of the receiver, resulting in feelings and emotions. The “energy of” unhappiness, for example, can be interpreted by the receiver as despair, or just having a bad day. The point is, empathic interpretation is subjective, based on the perspective and experience of the receiver.  


To have empathy facilitate a pay-it-forward through good thought, happiness, cooperation and respect, we need to go from “glass half empty” to “glass half full” mentality. 


Mentality…the mind is the source of the experience…and knowledge is power. Wayne Dyer says, “Change the way you look at this and the things you look at change.”  


About Connie and Sue:  Susan Fiandach and Connie Wake are professional psychic-mediums, teachers of psychic-medium studies and co-authors of “Everyday Conversations: The Key to the Contemporary Medium – Unlocking the Myths” and “The Student Guide to the Daily Medium – Unlocking Your 6th Sense.” They can be contacted through The Purple Door, 3259 Winton Rd South, Rochester NY.


Connie & Sue's website - http://www.PurpleDoorSoulSource.com