Married To A Medium By George Irwin

When Colleen and I are together and people find out that she is a Psychic Medium, more often than not a question which quickly follows is, “What’s it like to be married to a medium?” 

The short answer is that we’re just like any other couple, but there are at least three other questions that help me reply to the base question of “what it’s like.”

First, does Colleen give me messages or readings? The answer is a definite no. This is because Colleen follows the protocol of evidential mediumship; she needs to tell the receiver of a message something that definitively identifies who is coming through. 

We’ve been friends since the 1980s (fun fact: we were at each other’s first weddings!). She’s already familiar with my family members, so it would be difficult to bring in a new detail that I don’t know she already knows. Although there was the time when we were in a Tim Horton's, I made a statement and she responded uncharacteristically with “Winner! Winner! Chicken Dinner!”—which is something she did not know was a favorite phrase of my first wife’s late mother. But that wasn’t a message.

Second, does Colleen know what I’m getting for her for her birthday or Christmas? That’s also a no. She sets boundaries about this and anything else she might discern. There are times when she looks at me when I am in a particularly intense mood, and states, “I can hear the gears turning in your head.” But it’s up to me to respond, and she abides by that. We choose to have no secrets between us, but that doesn’t rely on her talents.

Third, does it bother me that she has this gift and I don’t? That’s another no. When we pair up for galleries, I “host” and make sure everything is going smoothly, and this lets her do what she’s there for: provide as many messages as possible in the allotted time. I introduce myself as “the Darrin to her Samantha” (immediately followed by, “But we still don’t know which one… look it up, kids!”) which breaks the tension in the room. I was also trained as a journalist and as a Six Sigma Master Black Belt (that’s the process improver, not the martial arts expert) and the fact that we see things differently also helps us make a good team. It’s the same when we co-chair Spiritualist Church services: I handle the proceedings, one of us gives the talk, and she always gives the messages. It works really well!

Now, how about the idea of a Double Aquarius (me) being married to a Triple Capricorn (Colleen)? That’s another question for another day…

About George Irwin: George Irwin is a writer, storyteller, inspirational speaker, music lover, fellow traveler, husband to Colleen, father of two, Chief of Staff for two cats, and model railroader... though none of this is his day job.

George's website: www.irwinsjournal.com