The exposure of psychic-mediums on television, in Hollywood movies, and on social media has increased the popularity of this service all over the world. People can watch a reading unfold to see how it “works” and be more comfortable in having one themselves, and so the demand for psychic-medium services has increased dramatically as well.
The role of the professional psychic-medium has also been increased, dramatically, as well. The days of the reader in a darkened, incense-laden room, as a mystical experience, no longer satisfies those looking to connect with loved ones passed. The expectation has changed.
Expectation, however, is a double-edged sword in the psychic-medium world. In our psychic-medium studies, expectation is discussed in how it can influence the outcome of a reading…on both sides of the table. Expectation may be a dam in the flow of the reading so we discuss the factors that can lead to an unclear reading, or the misinterpretation of the information received and shared, said and heard, by both the client and the reader.
In a reading, communication comes through the subconscious mind or thought that presents itself as symbols, signs, and associative information. And with any communication, clarity and understanding is important to make the conversation meaningful.
When an expectation is present, it may cause the information that is being said and/or the information being heard to not be fully comprehended and realized.
Expectation on the side of the reader may show up as assumption, prediction, or belief. The reader may assume that the information they are receiving is translated in a certain, predictive way. For example, the reader may feel the presence of an older woman and assumes it is a grandmother, who wore an apron, in the kitchen baking cookies. Or the reader may feel the presence of a tragic event in a loved one’s life and assign it as a “negative attachment” to the client. The dam of expectation has clogged the flow of the authentic translation and transference of the information from Spirit. A professional psychic-medium must work diligently to avoid this common trap, by expanding the educational, experiential, and ethical elements of their growth.
Expectation on the side of the client may come from what is seen on TV/Hollywood, or through their own mental and emotional desires for the reading. The TV/Hollywood scenario where the psychic-medium walks up to a person and wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am calls on the loved one, with points of accuracy and meaning, all in a couple of minutes. We have it on authority (from a TV medium) that the scene was staged (lights, make-up, waivers, etc.), and that while the reading itself was real, the tape was edited to provide highlights, while looking for the best entertainment possible.
Mental and emotional expectations are personal, however. A client may walk into a reading with the idea that certain things happen, usually based on beliefs, myths, or here-say. “You cannot hear from a deceased loved-one for at least 6 months after passing” and so they are confused when their loved one does indeed show up. Psychic amnesia…when we just forget things about our loved one passed…is a common occurrence.
Emotional expectation may be the toughest one to work through, as the client may be dealing with deep or recent, emotional traumas and dramas that occurred with the loved one passed. The expectation may be to hear an apology for actions taken (or not taken) or to hear how much they were loved, missed, etc. The client is looking for something to ease a grieving heart and anxious mind.
In these cases, the professional psychic-medium does not see expectation as a “block” to a reading service but utilizes the art of conversation to convey the essence of the reading. The need to clarify the translation and to insure they are on the “same page” (perspective) as the client comes through the intention of the depth and breadth of the reader’s training, experience, and ethical standards.
The bottom line is, when in doubt, ask. The client to the reader…the reader to the Spirit…and the reader to the client. This is not to say the reader asks the client questions to get the information first…but to clarify that the information was understood and valid.
It is well worth the effort of the reading experience, as a client and as a reader, to reach the common goal of connection through reducing the influence of false expectations and assumptions. Clarification during the conversation will be key and provide a more meaningful experience.
About Sue and Connie: Susan Fiandach and Connie Wake are owners of The Purple Door in Rochester, NY. They are professional psychic-mediums and teachers of psychic-medium studies on a mission to de-mystify our psychic sense. They are co-authors of “Everyday Conversations: The Key to the Contemporary Medium – Unlocking the Myths” and “The Student Guide to the Daily Medium – Unlocking Your 6th Sense.” They can be contacted through The Purple Door, 3259 Winton Rd South, Rochester NY. 585-427-8110.
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